MAKE THE DECISION TO CHANGE
Tony had a successful career as a National Sales Manager in a large multinational organisation. He was responsible for large teams and an even larger budget. From the outside it appeared like Tony’s career was trending in the right direction. On the inside, however, was a completely different reality.
In early 2015, just after Tony’s 42nd birthday, he (finally) came to the realisation that his life had not panned out the way he had imagined. Tony was extremely unhappy; his relationship with his wife and children was average because he was constantly traveling away on business; he was no longer feeling fulfilled in his job; he was overweight; and his financial position was significantly less than he had hoped for at that stage of his life.
Something had to give, therefore Tony decided to take ownership of his situation and set about changing it.
TAKE THE FIRST STEP
The first thing Tony did was read Stephen Covey’s book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”. Chapter 2 of this book discusses ‘Beginning with the end in mind’, with the end being the eulogy at your funeral. Whilst not wanting to deal with his own mortality, Tony thought about his eulogy and realised it wouldn’t read well.Having been an all-around sportsperson growing up, Tony decided that his first step was to get back involved in sport, but not a team sport because of his business travel. He chose to compete in a 12-week weight transformation challenge. He was supplied a food sheet and an exercise sheet and for 12 weeks he didn’t miss a step.
He ate and exercised what and when he was supposed to. He didn’t have an overall weight loss goal because resistance training was involved, instead he set 84 individual goals (each day of the challenge) and trusted the process.
At the conclusion of the challenge, Tony had lost 12 kg in 12 weeks, and whilst his physical change was dramatic, it was his mental change that was most profound. He had gained an unwavering sense of self-belief that if he can transform his body in 12 weeks, then he can do anything he puts his mind to.
BELIEVE YOU CAN AND YOU WILL
Next, he was determined to create the choice to leave his job and discovered property development. Tony and his wife had dabbled in property investing previously, but never property development. It wasn’t easy, but he was determined to create a different outcome for his life. Tony joined network meetings, signed up to a Mentoring program, sought individual coaches/mentors, and immersed himself in the world of property development.
He purchased his first development site in early 2016. Along the journey, Tony discovered that he liked property development, but he didn’t love it. However, what he did love was people asking him for help with weight loss or how to get started in property. It was the feeling of being able to help others that gave Tony the most happiness.
Being a people manager most of his working life, Tony understood what it took to bring the best out in his team. Then in late 2016, it ‘hit’ him – Tony was meant to be a coach. Steve Jobs said, “It’s only when you look back that you can connect the dots.” Tony had been a coach most of his life, it’s just that in the world of business you’re called a ‘Manager’.
IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO START
Several years on and Tony has totally transformed his life. His relationship with his wife and kids has improved. Mentally he’s never been sharper and physically he’s in a good place. He runs several companies and no longer needs to work for someone else.Although nowadays Tony works more than ever, he’s never been happier. All of the great things in Tony’s life today came from a realisation that he needed to make a change back in 2015. He recognised that no matter how old you are, it’s never too late to change.
Zig Ziglar, the late American motivational speaker, famously said, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” If you want to change your life you have to start. Start small, accept you’re going to make mistakes, but just start.
You can’t change what’s gone before you, but you have the opportunity to write the next chapter and how your story ends.